The maddening clicking of my nails on the dashboard is the last straw. My head falls back. I exhale deeply. Not the refreshing, life-giving, kumbaya sort of deep breath, but the one that means I am a second from groaning audibly while death gripping the wheel of the car.

Patience is not my thing.

Sitting in a parked car in a long line of traffic is the antithesis of my day.

After 22 years of life, you’d think I’d have found a way to beat this, or at the very least make progress in overcoming the inherent desire to act childish when I am not moving at my intended, desired speed. But here I am for the fourth time this week anxiously tapping my foot on the floor willing the pace of my reality to change.

Tempting as it is to say this is my one fault, it’s not. But are we not all in some capacity carrying around these big holes in our personhood? Tightly clenching certain weaknesses that feel like they can’t be separated from the reality we live?

Pop culture is filled with phrases like “be yourself” and “you do you”, but does this translate into me having a pass at showing all the worst sides of me? There seems to be an enlightenment in knowing my humanness, my strengths as well as weaknesses. But having knowledge of these things isn’t where the battle is fought. So, what is the fight?

These are questions that plague humanity. And they are so important that we asked Ryan Hanning and Tom Peterson, co-authors of The Willpower Advantage: Building Habits for Lasting Happiness, to speak to the heart of the problem. They offer a practical and inspiring outlook on how we can use our knowledge of our temperament and natural tendencies to be exactly who we are called to be.

"So I began this quest of saying, how can I find more happiness, more peace? And how can I get rid of those things that steal my happiness and peace?"

Their book is designed to help one understand who they are and how they can grow exponentially. It provides a “spiritual audit”, which allows the reader to identify their temperament and personality. They evaluate what the spiritual life will look like for different people and what virtues and vices one is naturally drawn to. From there they plot out different paths that each of us can relate to as individuals.

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"The book was written with the hope that anyone could pick it up and discover what it means to be fully alive and actually become happy."

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